At first glance, this sounds like something that might make an impact. Upon deeper reflection, most likely not. It fails on the basis that these males do not yet have a daughter. Asking them to imagine what is it like: the hopes, dreams, level of protectiveness one feels, still seeing one's little girl where there stands a grown woman, is near impossible.
There may be a few sensitive, imaginative souls out there that could visualize it well enough to be affected by it. But how many of them would probably already be treating those they dated with respect? Most, I would say.
And what of the girls? How many toy and tease with a fellow's heart? Or think more about what he can do for them, than him himself?
Dating should be such a simple, carefree thing! Guys and gals going out with people they find interesting to get to know them better without pressure or preconceived expectations. Without game playing or role playing.
Alas, it is often anything but that, at every age and stage. What of you? Were/are most of your dates enjoyable and relaxed? If you could, would you go back and change how and why you dated? What was your funniest experience? Worst? Most memorable? Oddest?
I'll get things started by telling you that once I was all dressed up to go honkytonking, complete with my good boots and Petie Pete took me through a briar patch in the drizzling rain to rabbit hunt instead!
Okay, your turn. Now share!😉
I have to say, your dad was a handsome man.
ReplyDeleteIt's been so long since I dated anyone. Curious enough, I've attracted more men in my age group as I have gotten older. It's a shame I don't have time to date a little. Such is life.
Awe, thank you!
DeleteYou must be holding up well!😊 I bet if you came across someone you found interesting enough you'd make time for a date now and then.
I appreciate the sentiment of the original meme, but like you said, it's only going to work on guys who already care about that stuff. But, even if there's unethical women out there, it doesn't give men an excuse to treat women badly. Better they find other women instead.
ReplyDeleteMy first date with my last boyfriend was a real bust. I was all excited to go out with him, but instead he took me furniture shopping so he could pick out a fireplace. He made me wait for a long time while he went off in the back of a store with a salesperson, and then I had to help him carry the fireplace inside his house. If that wasn't unromantic enough, he then suggested we get together with his brother. I didn't even know the guy yet, let alone have interest in meeting his brother!
I should have taken this as a sign and gotten the hell out of there.
First of all, I really appreciate you taking time out of your hectic schedule to visit my humble abode!😊
DeleteAs to your so called date; what an idgit! That's a we've been dating for weeks and love to just hang out together kind of date. Or a we've been married for years kind of date.
Hannah has had boys profess love for her after one meeting and a few texts. I'm so proud of her! She'll cut it off saying, how can he love me as he doesn't even know ME yet!
Good for her. Well done, Hannah!
DeleteI don't recall dating being much fun. My Mama was so strict I was afraid I would get into trouble. Also I was way too shy. I even lied to not date someone at times because I knew she would say no. Maybe I'm saying I wish I would have been brave enough to stand up to her.
ReplyDeleteOh, well, Mama may have saved you from a broken heart.💔
DeleteRabbit hunting doesn't sound like a good time.
ReplyDeleteMost guys would not be able to imagine well enough for that to mean something. Not until they are much older. I don't have kids, but I can well imagine how protective I would be of a daughter.
Dating was always awkward. Not until you really got to know someone was it not awkward. If it lasted that long.
Well, dating Pete was a real experience! Never knew if you'd be somewhere treated like a lady in every way or hauled off to the woods. I think the surprise and unpredictability of it all won me over. I remember telling my sister things were never boring with Pete. First time I got mad at him after we married and was complaining to her, she looked at me and said, "Are you bored?" We both started laughing. It's been a ride! 😊
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ReplyDeleteMy dating experience is limited. DH & I started courting when I was a few months shy of my 15th birthday and have been together the whole time. We just celebrated our 38th wedding anniversary but including our dating years we've been together 41 years. I don't think I would change a thing about our dating/courtship years. I surely wouldn't want to be on the market today. It's just so different from when I grew up. Kids have less common sense and judgement than we did growing up. At least, during my youth my parents passed to us these things through every day life. I don't know what parents are doing today. We did our best to do the same with ours. Unfortunately, I hear often how people treat sex as casual as a handshake and they don't place any importance on it. I think sex should be reserved for marriage but at the very least with someone you actually love. You know? Boys and girls are totally off the chart in the way they behave today and sadly they don't realize there's always consequences to their actions. Sometimes it's immediate and other times it may be months before it's bite them but it will eventually finds it way back to screw up their lives. I think this is why God tells us to sustain from intimacy until marriage. It would be awesome if boys/girls did heed these insights but like you said more than likely they will not. It's the furthest thing from their imagination and if I'm honest they don't have the ability to truly perceive these thoughts because they aren't dads/moms. Interesting thoughts and read. Thank you for sharing.
My dating life is so in the past. Not that I wouldn't date again, but am so concerned about meeting someone who is not who they claim to be.
DeleteCathy, sadly you are right. There is a whole segment of teens who think it is all a cheap sex game. Makes me admire so much the ones who approach it differently.
DeleteCarol, I can understand wanting to feel you know enough about someone first. When I look back and think of the dates I accepted from practical strangers, I'm very grateful the worst that happened was a time or two they turned out to be jerks. Could have been a lot worse.
The main thing I'd change about my dating "procedures" is that I'm less shy now and thus, I'd probably be dating a lot more than I did then.
ReplyDeleteI hear you. It takes some living to get comfortable in your own skin.
DeleteYeah, unfortunately that meme wouldn't impact those that need the lesson the most. Sadly.
ReplyDeleteThe problem with memes like this is we expect other people to read them and think the way we would. The simple reality is, they won't.
ReplyDeleteBefore dating the man who is now my husband I dated someone else for too long. I won't go into details, but I'm glad we didn't marry. It would have been a disaster!
Glad you waited for the right one!
DeleteWe don't have enough time to discuss some of the crazy dates I've been on before I got married.
ReplyDeleteOne stands out though that topped the cake: it was winter time and when my date picked me up, he left the car running to keep the heat on. Great! After dinner, he went ahead of me and told me he would pick me up by the door so that he could start the car and again have the heat going. yay- such a gentleman! we got back to my place and I asked him to come in ( I promise for real it was innocent to watch TV and talk), and he declined. BUT he kept talking to me in the car for what seemed forever and I asked why can you talk to me in your car but not in my house? Come to find out he had a breathalyzer installed in his car that he had to blow into in order to start the car and he had a drink while driving ( I had no idea). Last date with him!!! I recently married my best friend - no really im not being cheesy. We were best friends for several years and I never thought of him as more than that. When he asked me to go on REAL date with him I laughed and said no way - it will make our friendship weird. LOL. I gave in and rest is history.
Oh, my! He might have learned his lesson from that, or you could of been with an alcoholic.
DeleteWhat an interesting question, Barbara! My most embarrassing dating moment happened when I was just 16 and shy and had trouble thinking of what to say. I hit upon the idea of telling him about these two odd little children that rode my bus. Imagine my embarrassment when I discovered they were his niece and nephew! Taught me a good lesson!
ReplyDeleteI can only imagine how embarrassed you were! I suppose it was a fairly small town.
DeleteWell, nuts. I dressed up to go rabbit hunting once, and the dame took me dancing instead.
ReplyDeleteAin't that just like a dame! 😉
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