This rather popular series of mine is back! Hope you enjoy today's offering.
Telling me to calm down when I am upset is like throwing gasoline on a fire!
When you say, "Calm down", I hear, "You are upset over nothing. I don't see why you think this is so important." Instead, I need to hear, "I know. That is awful!" Once I begin to feel like you are understanding WHY I am upset, THEN I"ll begin to calm down.
Do you have a similar reaction to this phrase?
What phrases push your buttons?
Barbara
Ah yes. That would do it. I could see myself yelling, "Don't tell me what to do!"
ReplyDeleteLOL I wonder if this is a woman thing or if this phrase is a red flag to men as well?
DeleteI have seen this one, LOL, its so true. I think sometimes we just want to say something to be helpful and 9/10 times we always say the wrong things.
ReplyDeletebetty
I think you are probably right.
DeleteNope, it never works. My wife knows better than to say that while I'm driving.
ReplyDeleteI learned a long time ago not to say anything to Pete about his driving while he is driving. Best to be quiet, pray and never ride with him again if you survive. ;)
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