This rather popular series of mine is back! Hope you enjoy today's offering.
Telling me to calm down when I am upset is like throwing gasoline on a fire!
When you say, "Calm down", I hear, "You are upset over nothing. I don't see why you think this is so important." Instead, I need to hear, "I know. That is awful!" Once I begin to feel like you are understanding WHY I am upset, THEN I"ll begin to calm down.
Do you have a similar reaction to this phrase?
What phrases push your buttons?