1. When people state something and then follow it with, "You know?" or "Don't you think so?", etc. This perturbs me because it puts me on the spot if I don't agree exactly with what they just said. I hate to have to say, "No, I don't." for that seems rude. But on the other hand, I don't want them thinking I share their view. Please just make a statement and let me comment on it as I see fit.
2. People who look down on others due to social standing, financial standing, education, dialect, etc. None of these things are a measure of character or of intellect. They are merely a reflection of circumstance and opportunity.
3. When folks belly ache about government or elected officials, etc. and yet they didn't even bother to vote. I'm sorry, but if you didn't vote, your forfeited your right to complain.
4. When people use swear and cuss words as part of every day conversation. Yes, I lose my cool and utter things I shouldn't when upset or outraged, but I don't subject the world to a constant stream of gutter talk. Gutter talk brings those who speak it and those they force it upon down to the gutter.
5. Stupid or distracted drivers. That includes the women putting on mascara while going down the freeway. That includes the people trying to dial or text flying down the road. That includes the drivers that weave in and out of lanes at a high rate of speed just to gain a few yards of asphalt. And that includes the 80% of vehicles I see following too closely to the person in front of them! If you can't count "one thousand and one, one thousand and two" from the time their rear bumper passes a landmark till the time your front bumper passes a landmark, you are TOO CLOSE! That includes the folks who swerve way over to the left to make a right hand turn, when an 18-wheeler could of made it without doing so!
6. "Good Christian" people who do anything to make someone feel unwelcome or unloved in a church. But for the grace of God, go YOU!
7. When people make promises to children and then don't keep them. If you promise, especially a child, you do it. If you have any doubt, don't say anything until you are sure!
8. When someone says one more thing to me after I have walked out of a room, and I have to walk back to know what they said. Or someone who wants to talk to me while they are walking around, instead of stopping long enough to finish what they are saying. Wears my legs out and drives me crazy!
9. When someone in my home gets, eats or uses the last of something and doesn't tell me.
10. When someone passes something off to me half done or in terrible shape and leaves it up to me to deal with, sort out, clean up. Doesn't matter if it is an account at work full of errors and missing information or a filthy caked on mess of a dish or pan I didn't cook in at home.
1. Time alone in the pool at night under the stars. This is ultimate "me" time. Time to reflect, relax and pray.
2. Any small, thoughtful, unexpected surprise is a big day brightener.
3. Hugs, kisses, laughter, smiles from the people I love and care about.
4. Iced mocha coffee. Whether I make me one at home or buy it somewhere, it's a treat I enjoy very much.
5. A rainy day when I don't have to go anywhere. Time to curl up on the couch with a good book, or watch a great old movie. Bake cookies. Or play board games.
6. To play a good game of forty-two dominoes. Don't get to do that much any more. So many younger folks don't know how to. Most of the older folks we are around are into eighty-four now instead. Just not the same.
7. Time by a good fire outside. Relaxing, talking, listening to good old music. Playing washers or dancing. Doesn't matter the temperature, though 40-60 degrees is best. A handful of people or a crowd of twenty.
8. That marvelous, awe inspiring feeling when I realize I was used of God in someone's life. It humbles the pride at the same time that the spirit soars!
9. A good group gathered for a deep Bible study, complete with historical references, cultural insights into the life and times of the people and setting of the scripture reference.
10. To rest my head upon Pete's chest, with his arms wrapped around me. The weight of the world melts off me and nothing and no one can touch me. It's my ultimate safe place.
So, do you share any of my adores or yucks!? I admit, I am quite curious to know. Did any of mine surprise you? Would you like to get in on the fun? I have to admit, it was cathartic and refreshing to do it.
I agreed with so many of your "yucks" Barbara. It does frustrate me that people don't exercise their right to vote yet complain about everything and anything the government is doing. I too agree with the cuss words thrown all around in every sentence people say. Its funny to watch a TV show and hear all the bleeps of the words. I do like your 10 likes; I think it would be fun in the pool alone just enjoying that quiet time :)
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Thank you, Betty! Yes, the pool at night is a true place of solitude and beauty.
DeleteAh the pool at night. That was always my favorite time of all. And I love the sun!! Your last adore brought tears to my eyes. So sweet. And something I miss so much. Hug him tighter and hold him closer Barbara!!
ReplyDeleteGod bless you, Paula. I will dear, I will.
DeleteI was tugged for this too, so you'll soon see my ten and ten.
ReplyDeleteThere are a few or your 'yuck' that I share. I don't like people who look down at other people for any reasons. And I don't like people who don't keep promises.
People who costantly complain about the government make me feel awkward... as if I could do anything about it. (Sigh)
I adore small unexpected things too. They are so rare in everyday life.
I look forward to seeing your tens, Sarah. For me, it's always been the smaller, simpler pleasures that give me the most true joy. I could of easily kept that lists going, and going.
DeleteHello Barbara, nice to read your post again. Wow, you really hate going outside your home and being with your family, that's good. Here's ho I see things: People who can't be courteous or considerate of others don't know it. You don't tell them because you are considerate and a bit wiser. Don't let their behavior stress you out, this too shall pass.
ReplyDeleteI too don't like going out but have learned to expect the stupidity in others, they don't understand and I forgive them. God loves me and that's enough for me but I'm trying to work from home now and do so agree with your yummy.
Have a fantastic evening, Geoff.
Thrilled to have you stop by Geoff! Actually, I usually say a little prayer for the idiots and the inconsiderate.
DeleteI like number eight on your adore list! We should all aspire to that.
ReplyDeletePeople who complain but don't vote - yes, that's annoying.
And very sad when when people aren't welcomed at a church for whatever reason. Rejoice that they are there, people!
I agree Alex! Being used in God's plan, even in a small way, is the greatest thing that can happen to a person. Churches should be warm, welcoming. They should understand that they are a hospital for the sin sick. A light on a hill for the world.
DeleteExcellent list - downright common sense. However, I need to bump a yuck, and add anytime (not often) a creepy crawly insect zooms out from nowhere in the house. Until I moved to TX, I had never seen a cockroach - that was associated with being dirty - but here it's "one of those things". Ugh.
ReplyDeleteHa-ha! You can't stop those flying wood roaches. They come through usually looking for water. But they are big, and they can sure surprise you by dropping off the ceiling or flying off a wall. Once I was sitting on our couch in the living room at the old house, nursing baby Bubba in the middle of the night, half asleep, when one of those landed on the front of my shoulder! It was all I could do not to throw the baby into the air!!
DeleteI can add my "yuck": the number of people who bellyache about how the government should help or provide for people yet they never volunteer or help out in the community! The "everyone ELSE" should do something attitude is growing; no introspection at all.
ReplyDeleteGreat lists, both of them!
Excellent point!!
DeleteYou are right Cherdo. Loads of complainers, lots of sympathizers, but hardly any activists or volunteers.
DeleteDistracted drivers drive me nuts, too! I love #3 on your adore list.
ReplyDeleteI understand why you like #3 - it's what memories are made of!
DeleteEnjoyed both of your thoughtful lists! It's always a good idea to consider both extremes with regard to the 'bitter and the better' :-) I applaud Cherdo's addition! I especially liked 3,5, 7 & 10 on your 'adore' list.
ReplyDeleteOh, I like the phrase you coined!! I can tell by your likes of my adores you are a country girl at heart.
DeleteI love your #8 and #10 of adore list. I have to agree that nothings better than the comfort of my husbands hugs.
ReplyDeleteI am guilty of swearing but I don't do it around kids and I don't do it every other word. I mostly swear loudly in my car during traffic such as in your yucks.
Yeah, the distracted drivers club can lead anyone to lose their religion. I try to pray for them instead, along these lines. "Lord, please protect that idiot, but get their attention and help them do better before them or someone else is killed."
DeleteWell this is interesting and it's almost supper time so I'll just add this one. John has one sister who always says I'm like you and then gives her opinion about something. It drives John crazy because he usually doesn't agree with her at all.
ReplyDeleteSame exact thing I was griping about Paula, only it sounds like the sister uses it as a lead in instead of a follow up.
DeleteI agree with many of your yucks. Not so much the adores. I'm not a fan of swimming or drinks that contain caffeine. Or 40 degree days. (If the temps get down to 40 around these parts, there's panicking.) And the last time I played dominoes, I was a very small child, so I have no idea what kind of dominoes we played. Nice adores, just not the sorts of things I'm into.
ReplyDeleteWe use half calf coffee at the house, and the 40's aren't that cold if the wind isn't blowing and you are by a big roaring fire. My daddy taught me to play straight dominoes as a child. I never beat him. He was one of those who could tell you everything in your hand by the third play. I was starting to learn 42 when daddy passed away. It was a regular thing everywhere in Pete's family, and I learned to love it. Very similar to spades.
DeleteI would love to have a pool! I've never been able to swim in one at night. That must be so amazing.
ReplyDeleteI'm with you on the fire pit too. As for yucks, I don't have many, but I completely agree with number two. I have a male friend who once said he didn't know if things would work out with the girl he was dating because she was "from the wrong side of the tracks." I'd never heard something so elitist and snobby in my life.
I let him have it.
Good for you! What's a friend for but to open the eyes of another in the areas in which they are blind. - As to the pool, it's just plain above ground, but we enjoy it very much. I've always been partial to doing things out under the stars. Or in deep shady places. Glad to have you drop by Caneyhead.
DeleteI read through your list, agreeing with nearly everything. I love being in the pool at night looking at the stars. Sometimes with my daughter and we talk about everything.
ReplyDeleteDistracted drivers really steam me up. And the people who don't vote but complain! Curling up on a rainy day is lovely too.
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Nice to know we're so like minded. Have a beautiful weekend!
DeleteNice list. I can go with most of those.
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Thank you Arlee! Hope you're having pleasant journeys.
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