My theme is Musical Memories: The Memories that music brings rushing back.
Pete and I. Me and Pete. Barbie and Petey Pete. Toasted and doomed to failure by many when we first hitched up. Then surprising and shocking the naysayers by weathering life's storms together for over thirty years. One of us yearning to kill the other one minute, then rushing to their side to support them or protect them from outside forces the next.
I swear straight out, Pete brings out both the best and the worst in me. And I am willing to concede that I probably do the same for him.
For most of our lives together, he did what it seemed he wanted and I did what I thought I should. Now days it seems he does what he can and I try to do what I should. Sometimes he just can't do enough, and I'm learning more and more every day that neither can I.
And in this yen and yang, I identify with all the songs that were written for us. About us. Or at least it seems that way when you listen to them.
Mickey Gilley and "You've Really Got a Hold on Me." We'd sing along with it when we were dating:
"I don't like you but I love you
Seems that I'm always thinking of youOh, oh, oh, you treat me badly
I love you madly
You really got a hold on me
(You really got a hold on me)
You really got a hold on me
(You really got a hold on me)
Baby, I don't want you but I need you
Don't want to kiss you but I need to
Oh, oh, oh, you do me wrong now
My love is strong now"
Then there were oodles of nights and jeep rides when we'd sing along at the top of our lungs to one another, Hank William's:
And there has been many a day I've listened to Phil Collins singing "That's All" and thinking I know exactly what he's talking about.
"Why does it always seem to be
Me lookin' at you, you lookin' at me
Its always the same its just a shame that's all
Turnin' me on, turnin' me off
Makin' me feel like I want too much
Livin' with you is justa puttin' me through it all of the time
Truth is I love you, more then I wanted to
There's no point in trying to pretend
There's been no one who makes me feel like you do
Say we'll be together til the end"
There's no point in trying to pretend
There's been no one who makes me feel like you do
Say we'll be together til the end"
But over and above all else there is Orleans with "Still The One". It captures and embodies the best of us. Why it is, after all these years it is still Pete and Barbie against the world.
"We've been together since way back when
Sometimes I never want to see you again
But I want you to know
After all these years
You're still the one
I want whisperin' in my ear
You're still the one
I want to talk to in bed
Still the one
That turns my head
We're still having fun
And you're still the one
I looked at your face every day
But I never saw it 'til I went away
When winter came
I just wanted to go (wanted to go)
Deep in the desert
our love started to grow
You're still the one
That makes me laugh
Still the one
That's my better half
We're still having fun
And you're still the one
You're still the one
That makes me strong
Still the one
I want to take along
We're still having fun
And you're still the one (yes you are)
[Musical Interlude]
Changing, our love is going gold
Even though we grow old, it grows new
You're still the one
That I love to touch
Still the one
And I can't get enough
We're still having fun
And you're still the one
You're still the one
Who can scratch my itch
Still the one
And I wouldn't switch
We're still having fun
And you're still the one
You are still the one
That makes me shout
Still the one
That I dream about
We're still having fun
And you're still the one
You're still the one
Yeah, still the one
We're still having fun
And you're still the one"
What song/songs personify you and your spouse's relationship?
Are they Still the One? Would you do it all over again?
I like this. It's so true...the memories of music take us right back. I've already decided to use music as my theme "next year"...But first I have to get through this year's challenge! LOL.
ReplyDeleteWe are over the hump and on the downhill slant, so there's no stopping us now! :)
DeleteThe Hubzam refuses to have a serious song that is "ours." But he used to always say "Baby,Baby" by Amy Grant was his song for me.
ReplyDeleteThat's sweet.
DeleteNice tribute to you and Pete.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Paula.
DeleteJeff gave me a tape within 3 weeks of us getting together with Some Kind of Wonderful by The Drifters and told me the words said what he felt :) We've been together 25 years and I've added two songs to 'our tune' 'I have loved you for a thousand years' by Christina Perri and 'I won't give up' by Jason M'Raz, both because of the lyrics :) x
ReplyDeleteHow sweet! I adore that song and have it on my playlist, along with the Some Kind of Wonderful version by Grand Funk Railroad. Once when Pete and I were going through a particularly rocky patch, I made him a whole cassette tape of songs that each said something that spoke to our relationship. He played it till it wore out.
DeleteI love that song from Shania Twain. It was and still is my favorite. It used to be for me and my ex-husband and we still talk alot but we have both moved on and remarried. We have known each other since 8th grade and we have children together. We were better together before we got married and our marriage wasn't all that bad but everytime I hear this song I think of him.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing and bringing back memories.
Well, if a marriage has to end, better that it end with everyone still getting along. I thought the little graphic they made of that verse was beautiful!
DeleteBirds of a feather who found each other through love. It is very touching.
ReplyDeleteThank you! We are legendary. ;O
DeleteI can't imagine what life would be like without my husband. He is my best friend. We will celebrate our 28th anniversary in June. We love music, too. There are so many songs. There was one song that we both loved, and my husband identified with the words in a special way. He played the notes from parts of it and recorded it, so it could be played while we walked back down the aisle together after they pronounced us husband and wife.
ReplyDeleteIt was "I Love you" by The Climax Blues Band.
Honestly, sometimes I get so exasperated by something and find myself thinking "If it were only me then I could do it this way." And then I freeze and shudder and thank the Lord we are both still here. And may it be that way for at least another 30 years.
DeleteThat's great that you and your hubby have stuck together 30 years. It's not always easy, is it?
ReplyDeleteNo, it's not easy. Sometimes it's downright work! But it is a worthwhile work. All the common history between the two of you, all the things no one else could really know about you or understand.
DeleteHow sweet. You've got so many songs together. (No songs for me. I'm perpetually single.)
ReplyDeleteAh, well, one never knows when that may change. I had sworn to just go out and have fun and not get serious about anyone. Then it snuck up on me.
DeleteYou've made it over thirty years - no matter what, that is really awesome.
ReplyDeleteThank you Alex! I'm pretty proud of us, too!
DeleteMy wife and I got married out of high school. People said that we were doomed to fail. Well, we've been together for 43 years as of July 1st. We are more in love with each other now than when we married in 1972. Two songs that reflect our life together "Colour My World" by Chicago; and "Look at Us" by Vince Gill. Thanks for visiting my blog page and leaving a comment.
ReplyDeleteThat's great! And good songs, too. Drop by Caneyhead any time.
DeleteWe have such different tastes in music, finding one song is next to impossible, though we keep trying.I figure we will keep looking and keep the music fresh. Love the post and the music!
ReplyDeleteNothing wrong with that!
DeleteI was familiar with your previous post but this one was new to me.
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DeleteVery beautifully written! :) And I like the song lyrics. I feel like there is a song out there for every type of relationship...
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Delete"You've Really Got a Hold on Me" is a good song.
ReplyDeleteI don't know the song by Orleans, but I love "You're Still The One" by Shania Twain, which is what I immediately thought of when I read that song title.
Oh, that's sweet Chrys! There are other songs that make me think of me and Pete, too! But the day I actually wrote this entry, he had been being all snarky with me and my mind went to the ones that that cover all the mixed emotions of a relationship. Then I saw the graphic for Shania's song and just had to include it. LOL I've never been any good at staying mad at that man!!
DeleteI love all of the songs you listed, they will be stuck in my head all day and that is okay. My husband and I will be celebrating our 8th anniversary this June. Our song is Wave on Wave by Pat Green. We still listen to it all the time.
ReplyDeleteOh, that's a good one! My son introduced me to that song. Eight years! Y'all are off to a good start!
DeleteWhat a great post. I love the way that you strung together these songs which are perfect for describing the fluctuating feelings in relationships. Well done!
ReplyDeleteThank you Tracy, as I told Chrys in a comment above, I had planned on using some of the sweeter songs that I Identify with me and Pete, but he had been being Snarky to me at the time I wrote it, so I went with the ones that cover the full range of emotions a relationship takes you through.
DeleteWow...what a trip down musical memory lane. Awesome!!! Congratulations to you guys..ya'll are Still The One's! We watched 'Jersey Boys' last night....that was also a trip down memory lane...and we were outta our recliners dancing to Sheeeerrry...Sherry Baby! Yep, going on 50 years and we are 'Still The One's ", too. Great post, Barbara.
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OH, fifty years Sue!! That is wonderful! Good to know y'all still dance together. That's lovely. I just hope me and Pete can live into our 80's to make it to 50 years.
Deleteso many songs that can pierce the heart. I like your Pete and Barbie forever.
ReplyDeleteFor Ray and me, "Peaceful Easy Feeling" by the Eagles. I'm late to comment due to busy weekend but look forward to next week. Hmm - what shall Q be?
I've got to say, that song wouldn't pop in my head as a couples song, but I like it!!! That's nice. Don't know if that would ever be how to describe me and Pete. But it's nice!
DeleteBravo - your blog sums up relationships soo well - I still don;t know where Caneyhead is tho..
ReplyDeleteCaneyhead is a old community in S.E.Texas. Thanks for your kind words!
Deleteoh right - Texas..lol
ReplyDeleteNo where else! ;)
DeleteI remember that Phil Collins song! And I know I've heard "Still The One" more than a few times...and that pic at the bottom is Shania Twain's "You're Still The One" right? There's another more recent song I could add to that theme ...Paramore's "Still Into You"
ReplyDeleteI was a huge Paramore fan a few years ago but they're too 'pop' now and I'm not still into them anymore... but it's great to hear that you and Pete are still going strong! :-)
I haven't heard the Paramore song. Will have to check it out on Spotify. Yes, the graphic has lines from Shania Twain's song. Thanks for the sweet thought!
DeleteMore than 30 years...wow! Congratuations to you two. The husband and I have been together for just about a decade, but we've only been married for 1 1/2. The song mentioned by Chris...Paramore's "Still Into You" was actually one of the songs we played at our wedding. It suits us perfectly. Thank you so much for visiting me! I'm glad to have been able to find you in the A to Z! Elle @ Erratic Project Junkie
ReplyDeleteI've listened to it since Chris mentioned it, and it is a nice song. Here's to many more years together!
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