I can't say that I have ever spent much time worrying about people who didn't seem to like me. Yes, when I was a child, I was more sensitive to that. There have also been a few times along the way that I've been surprised by realizing someone did not like me. I liked someone fine and thought they liked me, as well, only to discover in some abrupt or unexpected way that I was wrong. I'm not saying it doesn't sting. Sure it stings! I think all rejection stings at least a little.
I'm just saying that I don't spend loads of time resenting them not liking me, or feeling sorry for me that they don't like me or even wondering why they don't like me.
Still, if I do have a hunch or know for sure the "why", I'm not an idiot. I think about it a little, if only to determine if it means I have been insufficient in some way as a friend. Occasionally, you can see something in yourself you'd like to change, if for no other reason so as to be a better person, maybe a better friend the next time. Certainly, if no one seems to like a person at all, then it is quite likely that person needs to make some major changes in their attitudes and actions.
Many times, more often I think, it is about nothing one can really change. Or more specifically, about something I wouldn't even want to change. What I mean is, we all have distinct personalities, likes and dislikes. Sometimes you meet someone and things just "click" with them. You find you share so much of the same interests and viewpoints. You find their humor delightful, they find you to be a good listener. Things like that. Sometimes, that chemistry just doesn't exist between two people, even try as they might. Then there are those who are snobbish or have some preconceived idea of who and what all their friends should be. These people aren't worth the time it takes to forget them. And there are the ones who dream up ideas and reasons to be jealous or resentful of you. They are trapped in a cycle of never really knowing or appreciating anyone.
The people we love, many times can be some of the folks we like the most. Some may not be. But an investment into any relationship where love abounds is a good, solid investment. Love forgives a multitude of sins. Love joins us in our sorrows, and rejoices with us in our wins.
Do you find yourself worrying yourself sick when someone doesn't like you? Have you ever seen someone had a good reason for not liking you?