"Then Judah stepped forward and said, “O sir, let me say just this one word to you. Be patient with me for a moment, for I know you can doom me in an instant, as though you were Pharaoh himself."
Genesis 44:18, TLB
Last time we looked at the folly of persisting in an argument just to have the last word and the damage it can do not to allow a little time and distance cool the fires of anger. Today, let's look at how quickly anger and words can damage people and relationships.
Unlike Joseph, we don't have the authority of Pharaoh behind our words. Yet, our words still carry a lot of weight, especially for those they are directed at. And even to ourselves, as how we are perceived by others comes in large part by what we say and how we say it.
It takes only an instant to become angry, but in that instant we can do irreparable damage to those around us. Even if what we say in anger does not seem that bad to us, each of us has different sensibilities.
Pray to be slow to anger. Try withholding comment once you start to feel anger. Once again, remove yourself from the situation until you are calmer. It may be that in retrospect it was not that big a deal. Yet, even if it still seems to be a matter you need to address, better to do so with a clear head and a calm demeanor.
Has angry words or actions ever destroyed a relationship you were in? Has cruel words ever harmed your sense of self worth or purpose? Have you uttered things in anger you immediately wished you could take back?