tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post7757622915220638173..comments2024-02-10T02:29:29.558-06:00Comments on Life & Faith in Caneyhead: #AtoZChallenge - Perspectives: HelpBarbara In Caneyheadhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06053601327400989802noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-80961498243515813972017-04-14T22:10:25.233-05:002017-04-14T22:10:25.233-05:00I should add that I am also getting better at sayi...I should add that I am also getting better at saying "no" when I am asked to do something that really isn't a good fit or time for me. I stopped being a doormat years ago. And I don't feel guilty if it's something I am unable or unwilling to help with. Josie Two Shoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18388032819905416258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-25506102809645695892017-04-14T22:09:10.655-05:002017-04-14T22:09:10.655-05:00I get better at asking for help as the years go by...I get better at asking for help as the years go by, but I am more willing and likely to extend help. I also think it's a bit rude to get really specific when you are asking someone for help unless it absolutely has to be done that way at that time, and if someone helps you be appreciative, not critical, they are extending a kindness to you! Josie Two Shoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18388032819905416258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-73407929534301223232017-04-12T14:21:35.423-05:002017-04-12T14:21:35.423-05:00I am not very good at asking for help!!I am not very good at asking for help!!Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17406717262345866373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-46105721785174097072017-04-11T15:55:53.644-05:002017-04-11T15:55:53.644-05:00Help is always goodHelp is always goodMikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08000518512016364412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-75901357825808384952017-04-11T12:05:55.466-05:002017-04-11T12:05:55.466-05:00I have a hard time asking for help. For me, it is ...I have a hard time asking for help. For me, it is a learned behavior. It is true for my parents and the grandmother I knew. I know some consider it pride. I think it is also training and the feeling that no one will help you. As a consequence, I help others without their asking when I can.<br /><br />As far as people who want too much, it gives me a chance to say I can't. <br />Ann Bennetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17759967601352382204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-90028928375122134752017-04-10T23:48:47.626-05:002017-04-10T23:48:47.626-05:00I will ask for help if I can't absolutely do i...I will ask for help if I can't absolutely do it on my own, LOL. I try to fix or solve, etc., but if I get to the end of my rope, then I'll ask for someone's help. Only time I've asked for help by a specific time is if the thing I need to get help for needs to be done by a specific time. For example, we got new couches a few months back. Hubby and me couldn't move the old big one out to the garage. I asked son if he and a friend could come over preferably that day when the new furniture was arriving to move the couch out. Otherwise, if it was something general, then I wouldn't put a time limit on when I wanted it done.<br /><br />bettybettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06323135450742337670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-9748221652789239172017-04-10T23:24:19.984-05:002017-04-10T23:24:19.984-05:00My husband died at age 50 and my girls lived in di...My husband died at age 50 and my girls lived in different states and different countries so I became very independent. Now that I'm old and have medical problems it kills me to ask for help.Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04007728342316668058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-58147969471501054412017-04-10T20:18:31.140-05:002017-04-10T20:18:31.140-05:00I hate asking for help, avoid it whenever possible...I hate asking for help, avoid it whenever possible. As for the timing thing, I know what you mean. I was asking for help for my side a to z blog project, and I had to set a deadline for posts to be gotten to me. But I set a deadline. I didn't say, "do it tomorrow". I said, "Could you have this to me by such and such a time?" Liz A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16531953467834426316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-68099689440450629302017-04-10T14:40:50.443-05:002017-04-10T14:40:50.443-05:00I have to admit that it is very hard for me to ask...I have to admit that it is very hard for me to ask for help. I know that it is a false pride thing, and I have worked on that and gotten a degree better over the years. But oh my, how I still hate having to ask for help! I don't mind helping out someone who needs it, and will often volunteer to help before it is asked. But, yes, if someone asks me to do something for them that isn't a time-restrictive thing, then I do think it would be rude for them to demand I time it for their convenience and not theirs.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08506026496063245730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-87566573625929212662017-04-10T13:22:39.425-05:002017-04-10T13:22:39.425-05:00"But don't demand a certain time of me un..."But don't demand a certain time of me unless you are asking for help with something that cannot be changed, like a trip to an appointment." Oh, I agree with that whole-heartedly! You're already putting someone out to some degree by asking the favor. Don't impose restrictions if you can avoid it.The Silver Foxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00730805376957629641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-70050176358562580802017-04-10T10:20:42.781-05:002017-04-10T10:20:42.781-05:00I can ask for help if I really, really need it, bu...I can ask for help if I really, really need it, but I prefer not to - mainly because I'm asking someone else to inconvenience themselves. I am willing to help others when they need it as well, but like you say, I find it rude when they put demands on the when, unless it's for an appointment or it's urgent. Mowing the lawn doesn't come under the urgent category!Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13831242266526923808noreply@blogger.com