tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post4446308694241057042..comments2024-02-10T02:29:29.558-06:00Comments on Life & Faith in Caneyhead: #AtoZChallenge: Perspectives - AdviceBarbara In Caneyheadhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06053601327400989802noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-18489334299309824972017-04-14T22:34:43.296-05:002017-04-14T22:34:43.296-05:00You are right on track with this subject! Advice s...You are right on track with this subject! Advice should be given only when asked for, or if you have inquired if advice is wanted, other than in the two instances you noted. And don't be hurt if you offer advice and it isn't taken. Be a listener, it's often more valuable, we all have to find our own answers most of the time. I can be a little sensitive about unsought advice, I shouldn't take it personally but sometimes it still makes me feel defensive. As a mother, it's hard not to offer unsolicited advice, but it comes across much better if you ask if they'd like some rather than force feed it! :-)Josie Two Shoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18388032819905416258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-17133611569761426852017-04-09T17:42:53.469-05:002017-04-09T17:42:53.469-05:00Depends on how it is given. Some advice is helpful...Depends on how it is given. Some advice is helpful and welcomed.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08000518512016364412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-70482045586711097992017-04-04T18:26:09.336-05:002017-04-04T18:26:09.336-05:00mixture. I admit I'll chime in if I hear someo...mixture. I admit I'll chime in if I hear someone say something so blatantly wrong, it cannot be left on the table. Or in a store, if someone is holding up something great - I'll get them the nod<br />Or in a bookstore...I will definitely offer suggestions. <br />Hey - must share the brilliance - ha!!!Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11604494404874408870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-45955082170394544122017-04-03T21:30:13.979-05:002017-04-03T21:30:13.979-05:00Most of the time I don't mind getting advice. ...Most of the time I don't mind getting advice. And I am quick to give it too. Doesn't offend me though if someone doesn't want to listen to my advice. Happy to see you posting. I'm skipping the challenge this year!Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17406717262345866373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-50786803234805008542017-04-03T17:27:46.125-05:002017-04-03T17:27:46.125-05:00I missed everyone's A post on Saturday. Now I&...I missed everyone's A post on Saturday. Now I'm trying to read two posts today for each blog I follow that's participating in the A-Z!<br /><br />I rarely give unasked-for advice, and hate receiving it!The Silver Foxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00730805376957629641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-23074126792452568522017-04-03T02:52:52.779-05:002017-04-03T02:52:52.779-05:00Yeah, sometimes I just want to express stuff.
Inst...Yeah, sometimes I just want to express stuff.<br />Instead, people just want to tell me what to do and it's hard not to get huffy and go "yeah I know, I already know what I'm supposed to do."<br /><br />Defeats the purpose of wanting to tell them in the first place.<br /><br /><a href="http://blog.annatsp.com/" rel="nofollow">Anna</a>Anna Tanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16881266814597255847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-74452803755561264922017-04-02T21:43:48.096-05:002017-04-02T21:43:48.096-05:00I'm terrible at advice, so I rarely give it. A...I'm terrible at advice, so I rarely give it. And I know I resent it when I don't want it. But there are some who just have to meddle...Liz A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16531953467834426316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-29077404676611595272017-04-02T18:31:46.863-05:002017-04-02T18:31:46.863-05:00Some people give good advice and others get awful ...Some people give good advice and others get awful advice. Its really a roll of the dice and a good dose of common sense. Be pleasant friendly and smile because you never know, sometimes thats all some poor soul ever wants.SpacerGuyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05575342869714342370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-10700785517035122017-04-02T17:30:57.318-05:002017-04-02T17:30:57.318-05:00I totally agree with you, Barbara. Most of the tim...I totally agree with you, Barbara. Most of the time giving unsolicited advice is equivalent to 'casting pearls before swine.' People tend to learn more emphatic lessons the hard way. Sad but true.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13831242266526923808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-22132385258358625952017-04-02T16:11:15.243-05:002017-04-02T16:11:15.243-05:00I've learned a lot from advice I didn't re...I've learned a lot from advice I didn't really want . . .but usually I learned the hard way. I've become more open to advice as I've gotten a few years under my belt, and I give a lot of less of it, unless I'm asked. <br /><br />@mirymom1 from<br /><a href="http://samanthabryant.com" rel="nofollow">Balancing Act</a><br />Samantha Bryanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17684962313482409801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-88563733756494806422017-04-02T09:18:45.708-05:002017-04-02T09:18:45.708-05:00Sometimes I'm the horse looking at the water, ...Sometimes I'm the horse looking at the water, sometimes I'm leading the horse to the water. The water doesn't miraculously jump into the horse's mouth. Living in the In Betweenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15164642521615201594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-30419368954167672362017-04-02T08:57:47.995-05:002017-04-02T08:57:47.995-05:00Exactly. Well said.
Great post.
Heather
Co-Host, ...Exactly. Well said.<br />Great post.<br /><br />Heather<br />Co-Host, 2017 Blogging from A to Z April Challenge<br />https://hmgardner.blogspot.com/Heather M. Gardnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07232419331422866247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-38392026382264881082017-04-02T06:51:29.450-05:002017-04-02T06:51:29.450-05:00It is definitely hard to bite my tongue sometimes ...It is definitely hard to bite my tongue sometimes when I think I could help but I forget they just might want to achieve it on their own. I remember two distinct times that I received unsolicited advice and it aggravated me. When a person without children of their own or experience raising children tried to give me advice about my child and the other time was when we were having our home built, a person who never owned a home or worked in the construction industry constantly told us that we need to do this and we needed to do that. We didn't let them know it aggravated because they were family :) Great start to the A to ZAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09283668839966693754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-6131870147765558002017-04-02T01:56:42.213-05:002017-04-02T01:56:42.213-05:00I'm in complete agreement with you and absolut...I'm in complete agreement with you and absolutely hate it when somebody tries to give me unsolicited advice. I only give it when asked. Telling your problems to men is a bad idea - they always want to fix things. ☺ <br />Thanks for visiting me earlier. Have a good Sunday.Debbie D. https://www.blogger.com/profile/13153118405565035071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-1353151337954694952017-04-01T19:05:07.076-05:002017-04-01T19:05:07.076-05:00So true! I've found it best to just zip it whe...So true! I've found it best to just zip it when I'm about to tell someone what they should or might do. That includes my kids. Good luck on the A to Z!cleemckenziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15456109243453726483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-45144596136737643912017-04-01T18:35:10.291-05:002017-04-01T18:35:10.291-05:00Yes, I've learned that with my kids. I can fi...Yes, I've learned that with my kids. I can find out more about what is going on with them if I truly listen instead of offering advice right out of the gate. Fortunately a few times I've been able to say "I told you so," and a few times I've heard them say "I wish I'd listened to you, mom." <br />Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10949606196473376619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-57325433486618835192017-04-01T16:45:48.872-05:002017-04-01T16:45:48.872-05:00It all depends on what the situation is but a lot ...It all depends on what the situation is but a lot of times I like the input of others. As for giving advice, I really don't like to because I don't want to be responsible for something going badly because someone listened to me. Cheryl Wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15222990598767728860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-18385440149502638052017-04-01T16:06:18.613-05:002017-04-01T16:06:18.613-05:00Hi Barbara, great to see you! I do my best not to...Hi Barbara, great to see you! I do my best not to offer advice unless begged and then with many disclaimers. And I rarely want to hear any from someone else UNLESS I've asked for it (most likely in more ways than one). :)Kimicalreactionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00170446102695852146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-38625565126093792582017-04-01T16:05:11.306-05:002017-04-01T16:05:11.306-05:00I try not to give advice, usually falls on deaf ea...I try not to give advice, usually falls on deaf ears anyway. <br /><br />Receiving advice: My folks are gone now - they always tried but, their advice just fell on my deaf ears. <br /><br />My theme is all about baby boomers and those years we grew up. Grab some cookies and milks and come on over. <a href="https://mymorningcupofcoffee.blogspot.com/2017/04/atozchallenge-atomic-bombs.html" rel="nofollow">Atomic Bombs</a>Debby https://www.blogger.com/profile/02574297621214864538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-86439950099217579652017-04-01T15:44:02.087-05:002017-04-01T15:44:02.087-05:00My wife trained me early. She isn't looking fo...My wife trained me early. She isn't looking for a solution. Keep my mouth shut and just listen.Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-49357795497635920842017-04-01T15:36:07.673-05:002017-04-01T15:36:07.673-05:00There's nothing worse than someone giving you ...There's nothing worse than someone giving you advice when they don't truly know or understand the situation you're in. I'd definitely welcome any friend who gave me an honest answer when I asked 'what do you think?' but if I wasn't looking for it, I'd maybe not receive it well.<br /><br />Cait @ <a href="http://clicks-clan.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Click's Clan</a>Clickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09478761820331036869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-25306541507264067052017-04-01T12:45:18.366-05:002017-04-01T12:45:18.366-05:00I don't think I'm great at giving advice a...I don't think I'm great at giving advice as I worry about coming out with pat sayings. I'd like to think I'm good at receiving it but that probably isn't true either!Nick Wilfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03841776353790635132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-52545626078291093482017-04-01T10:31:21.480-05:002017-04-01T10:31:21.480-05:00We are dealing with a situation where we are givin...We are dealing with a situation where we are giving advice, which we consider sound, but it is basically being ignored. We recently came to the conclusion we are done with it and help we offered previously we will probably rescind down the road. In my personal experience, I do listen to advice and consider it when makibg decisions.<br /><br />Bettybettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06323135450742337670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-12816316983621812612017-04-01T09:27:01.405-05:002017-04-01T09:27:01.405-05:00Wise words indeed. Now, if I can always remember t...Wise words indeed. Now, if I can always remember them. <br /><br />Ann Bennetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17759967601352382204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2941371995600376751.post-589611364302341152017-04-01T05:39:15.368-05:002017-04-01T05:39:15.368-05:00I don't give advice often and usually ignore i...I don't give advice often and usually ignore it when given to me.Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04007728342316668058noreply@blogger.com